Reposted from @iamnadiabuari – ..so I just got off the fon with a childhood friend of mine who’s having relationship issues and feels her last resort is to get off the pills and have a baby for him.
In her naïve mind, that will certainly hold him down.
Well..I ain’t no counselor, neither I’m i clairvoyant, but I do know this however, that, a baby WON’T keep a man, being beautiful WON’T keep a man, sex WON’T keep a man, Heck, being a good woman, BARELY keeps a man. The only thing that’ll keep a man, is A MAN THAT WANTS TO BE KEPT! #Periodt! – #obyorijiblog
Reposted from @iamnadiabuari – Something we all need to remember is that, anyone can be ur “dream come true” when u first meet them. U have no past with them. They have a clean slate. They are on their best behavior. They are observing u….Finding out what u like and what u don’t. That’s how they filter what they show u.
It’s all surface, it’s what they ALLOW u to see. It’s human nature. We all do this upon meeting people. This is why it is so important to soak a person in before u attach yourself to them for life, and include them in ur future. Too often we are crestfallen when we watch relationships fall apart that started out magically.
We say people “change”, but the reality is, they are who they always were.. we just didn’t get to follow them deeply enough.. So don’t rush, and don’t pile fairytale attributes upon someone who seems to say all the right things.
They are telling u what u want to hear, at first. Give it time and watch the mask fall..and if they look the same, hold on…and don’t let go. – #obyorijiblog – #regrann
Reposted from @iamnadiabuari – People make time for who they want to make time for. They text, call or reply to people they want to talk to.
Never believe anyone who says they are too busy.~ “Too Busy” is a myth. No one is ever too busy, it’s all about priorities. If they wanted to be around u or call u, they would! – #obyorijiblog – #regrann
Reposted from @iamnadiabuari – Not everyone who wish u well really wish u well or really wish u are well. Many come to us with their lips but their hearts are far away from us.
With their lips, they may wish u go, but with their hearts they wish u never go on. They may show concern but they really are not concerned.
They may be frenemies who love what we hate about ourselves but hate what we love about ourselves. SO BEWARE OF THEY WHO SAY BEWARE. ~N.S.B – #obyorijiblog – #regrann
Reposted from @iamnadiabuari – Stick with those who empathize with u and not just sympathize with u.
The ones who raise u when u are down the well and not the ones who praise u when u’ve done well, because u never really know what’s behind that praise.
Psalm 55:21 “His words are as smooth as butter, but in his heart is war.
His words are as soothing as lotion, but underneath are daggers!” BEWARE OF THEY WHO SAY BEWARE. ~ N.S.B – #obyorijiblog