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Breaking: An Explosion rocks Second Coming gas plant in Magodo, Lagos.

Magodo gas explosion

The new week began on an unpleasant note for Magodo residents.
An explosion at Second Coming gas plant along CMD Road in Magodo, Lagos, leaves at least 10 people dead, with concerns that more persons may still be trapped in the plant.

The incident was said to have been triggered by a spark in a car which ignited the highly flammable gas in a truck offloading it. Another eye witness claimed that the truck was leaking its content.

The fire is said to have spread through out the neighbourhood, injuring many.

A truck carrying something as dangerous as a gas, shouldn’t be leaking I’m the first place, but since it has already happened? We wish them a quick recovery, and sending out our condolences to the affected families of victims who lost their lives.

Magodo gas explosion
Magodo gas explosion
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Kemi Olunloyo has been released from port harcourt prison, and suffering from Depression and Anxiety.

Kemi Olunloyo suffering from depression and anxiety.

The mother of three, and significant celebrity poker Kemi Olunloyo, has been released from prison after 176days of being locked up for the third time, due to her investigative journalism. She was released days ago, but still in Port Harcourt, she has announced that she is suffering from depression and anxiety after she claim to have lost $10million due to her absence from her website and job. She needs Nigerians to pray for her, as she is gradually fading away.

Kemi Olunloyo suffering from depression and anxiety.
Kemi Olunloyo suffering from depression and anxiety.

Read her announcement below: 

@Regranned from @hnnafrica – #HNNHealth #StraightOuttaPHMax
Pray for my sanity. I’m still up at 3:30am looking at the ceiling, lost appetite on #Paxil a #Serotonin inhibitor in the brain, unemployed and devastated losing my news website, business and domain, wages, revenues, assignments and as one of the only 3 international journalists Nigeria has produced also the judiciary and IGP seized my passport as a bail condition so I don’t work or flee to work in another country. My passport is tied to my job.

Kemi Olunloyo suffering from depression and anxiety.
Kemi Olunloyo suffering from depression and anxiety.

My total loss in 2017
~ $10M (N4B)

If u don’t know what professional bloggers/online journalists make, go ask @yelesho @officiallindaikeji or @theperezhilton
They took my livelihood!!! Thank u for all the donations some of u have sent me for medical bills, food, clothing and my upcoming travel back home after court next week. All I have left is my verified work accounts @HNNAfrica on Twitter and Facebook posting randomly. Join me @kemiolunloyo on my next announcement. Totally devastated!

#KemiOlunloyo
#madamhnnūüĎĎ –

ūüėíūüėíūüėíūüĎź The part about N4billion ($10million) though. So funny… We sincerely wish her quick recovery..

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African Group of Ambassadors to the UN demands an apology from Donald Trump over ‘shithole’ statement.

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The African Group of Ambassadors to the United Nations, demands a retraction and an apology to African over the repugnant continuous statement by the President of the United State, Donald Trump’s “shithole” Countries remark. .

The President who has been known for his careless speech before and after assuming the post of the President, of recent referred to Africa, as a shit hole.

The unbelievable speech has brought all heads of negative speeches from the world, condemning his clear hate for Africa, North Korea, and Muslims.

This is not his first time saying things with such magnitude of derogation towards Africans, but this so the first time Africa is demanding an apology form him. Many have come to terms with the bad mouthed president, but others think he should be excused for things he does. We will wait for his reaction to this.

With all theses things he says out in public, one can only imagine what his wife  #melanintrump goes through in your hands at home, behind closed doors.

#donaldtrumpshit
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At what point should you trust a stranger?

Aren’t we all strangers?

when people hear the word ‘Stranger‘, they automatically assume that these are the kind of people you see by the road side, or in gatherings with nothing actually relating the both of you. A person who is suppose to look creepy and suspicious, with dirty clothes, weapon and bad teeth.

Aren't we all strangers?
Aren’t we all strangers?

It is always expected that evil strangers can always give out the vibe that they are evil.

‘Funny insulation Huh?’. ¬†This is always an unrealistic way to see it. People who walk up to you in the clubs are strangers. People who ask you for your number, are strangers. people who move into the next apartment of your building, are strangers. ¬†people who ask you for a lift while you are driving, are strangers. people who ¬†see you as a friend, can be a stranger you genuinely know nothing about, except ¬†for what they tell you.

But Today, I want to know the point at which you can say a stranger is no longer a stranger. people start dating a person and a few weeks later, they think they know that person so well, that they refer to him as a best friend. How about the fact that people can actually pretend to be what they want you to think they are, ¬†until they decide it’s time to stop pretending?

Aren't we all strangers?
Aren’t we all strangers?

Spouses have had cases where they just lived with an individual who they didn’t see as a stranger because this stranger is their wife/husband. Many, after decades of being with this stranger, they are hit with the unbelievable reality of the actual person they have been building a life with. ¬†People have been known to lie about their jobs and life for decades to the very person who they claim to love. Only to find out that they were simply insulting you intelligence, and taking advantage of you.

Aren't we all strangers?
Aren’t we all strangers?

Cases where you lived with a man for 20 years, had his kids, and built and empire with, had lied about the jobs and life he has had for years. Meanwhile, they were only just living a fake life for two decades. Only to find out that he no job, had a fraudulent life, and even has an entirely different family (wife and kids) in another part of the world. So with this, how long do you think it will take for you to trust a stranger.?

The ¬†truth of the matter ¬†is, we as humans, can never know. We are always relying on reading meanings into someone’s countenance, expressions and body language. But what then happens when you encounter a perfect pretender? A person who gives out nothing for you to suspect anything? At this point, you are in the mercy of the Lord God. Only he can save you from a person who has subdued his guilt due to years of experience. These are the dangerous ones. They can lead you on, until you have an unnatural end. There is no way to tell if a good liar is actually a Good liar, if they are so good at it. So unless the lord is on your case, you are in big trouble.

The world these days, is flooded with these types of humans. And unless you have the sixth sense, you can’t know them until they show their real colors. So, with this said, never you assume that ¬†you completely know a person just because you have spent a long time with them. People can be what ever they put their mind to, and that includes Evil. Don’t expect people to be good because you want them to. And don’t expect the world to be a better place just because you want it to. ¬†Becareful out there guys, “Never trust ANYONE”, ¬†just Like the bible says, Years of knowing that person ¬†not withstanding. ¬†TRUST N GUYS.¬†

The bible wasn’t mistaking when it said so.

Aren't we all strangers?
Aren’t we all strangers?
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Nigerians now worship their religious leaders.

Nigerian Religious Leaders

Just like we talkes about the way “Nigerians fear their bosses” read here ‘BOOTLICKERS‘, we are equally going to talk about the way Nigerian religious leaders have managed to convert their fellow region brethren in their disciples.

Nigerian Religious Leaders
Nigerian Religious Leaders

This has always been a problem of the Black nation. We are efficient, but have¬† always had the problem of differentiating the believe in a person from obsession over that person.¬† This doesn’t only apply to politicians who have had the privilege of playing us the same way for multiple times and we still fall for it, it aso applies to the religious leaders who have managed to learn the weekeness of extremities of Nigerian faithfuls.

Nigerian Religious Leaders
Nigerian Religious Leaders

When it comes to Christianity in Nigeria, we find a way to take the matter of Jesus, and make it about out¬† pastors, and then the Muslims take it away from Allah and make it about the Imam. How on earth did we get here? A Peron who hasn’t gone to heaven to confirm anything concerning the Creator of the earth, or even acquire any form of supernatural knowledge to guarantee his superiority over his fellow worshippers, will read the same bible and Quran that is accessible to everyone of us, and then transforms it into what ever he wants, and then tells the people that it is the right thing.

Nigerian Religious Leaders
Nigerian Religious Leaders

Since are a typical humans, we will follow every footstep that has been laid for us, down to the very last. Meanwhile, we have the Bible and the Quran in our disposal, that has been translated into all languages that we can read and understand straight from the author.

Why then do we have the bible/Quran straight from the authors who said they were given the ideaology to write, when we still need like 5 people to tell us what they think of it?

This, I believe is the beginning of the problem for us Nigerian Fanatics. If you have the holy ghost who was sent to us for directions by Jesus during his ascension, and you read the bible as regularly as you should, why then do we need to this high number of religious head to tell us what she thinks, and even inculcate their own idea and will into the simple teachings, complicating it so much so that a religion begins to seen like a cult, scaring the people who are somewhere finding the religion interesting enough to want to be part of it.

Nigerian Religious Leaders
Nigerian Religious Leaders

Dear Religious Leaders, his do you sleep at night knowing that your teachings has led to the loss of countless lives? Which God did you hear from before you started teaching these innocent minded faithfuls who put all their trust and hope on you, only for you to exploit them and cause them pain?. If you are asked by God himself to explain yourself, will that be a proud moment for you all?

And to my fellow Nigerians. It is incredibly fulfilling to love God and keep his commandments.(The duty of man to God).¬†You have been asked not to neglect the gathering of brethrens with the encouragement of the leaders, to avoid you being weary. So Leaders and followers, this doesn’t mean that you were asked to worship your leaders, criticize the poor, segregate the needy, and take advantage of the Rich, to live the life that you encouraged them to look forward to only when they arrive earth.

So Dear Nigerians, please Don’t cut your life short trying to protect a bad religious leader. The leaders and politicians of this earth are not the people to sacrifice your life for. We all have the same brain capacity. Sit down and think for your own self. Stop looking for approval and directions from people all the time, you will become a Victim of evil..

Nigerian Religious Leaders
Nigerian Religious Leaders

#religion

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Why do Nigerian Employees Fear their bosses.??

Boot licking sucks

From my experiences in this Country of ours, I have come to a conclusion that this is professionally unhealthy for the work environment. I have visited offices, or even worked in an office where people stop breathing once they sight the boss approaching. The mere ground that bosses  stepped on, gets kissed. People rush to pretend like they have been working, they even go as far as hiding to avoid an eye to eye contact, running to collect anything that he has in his hands, ranging from a book, down to a weightless pen. That is the extreme part.

Boot licking sucks
Boot licking sucks

When Nigerians hear their Boss making the wrong assumption or decision during a meeting or just one-to-one conversation.¬† They are so afraid to let a word leave their mouth even when they didn’t commit any crime. This is the way they take job security matters to their own hands around here.¬† They simply let that Boss of theirs, take the misleading decision all by him/herself, to prevent being seen as being forward.

You can’t see an employee who is personally willing to have a conversation with the boss, unless it is important or mandatory.

Boot licking sucks
Boot licking sucks

No one actually sat down and taught employees this uncomfortable behaviour, individuals developed it themselves. They just can’t even have a little confidence to talk to their boss. The silence that comes while the boss is walking across the offices can send a baby to sleep. It is¬† so obvious that these bosses do know about these reaction. They grow to look forward to it. I feel they don’t want to say anything to prevent it from happening, and doesn’t get disrespected.

In Nigeria, it is either  you are respected or you are disrespected, there is no intermediate. So if any boss asks his employees to tone down the fear level to convert it to simple respect, he is  assumed to be demanding for disrespect.

Boot licking sucks
Boot licking sucks

Nigerian bosses, just like the Pastors, have gotten use to the extreme respect from their subordinate that has over the years turned into FEAR. They see it as disrespectful if you stop doing those things that you were doing in the beginning.

Dear Employees. Don’t be a hypocrite who says bad about their bosses behind his back, and come to his presence to lick his boots. This is not a good picture.

Boot licking sucks
Boot licking sucks

Fearing your Boss will affect you these ways: 

. It will stop you from being noticed as a significantly contributor to the establishment. When you are too afraid to talk to your boss, how do you share ideas that will guarantee your promotion, while you work?

. When you Tell your superior your ideas and he presents it to the boss like its his, isn’t it obvious that you are selling your Brian power and intellectual right helping your superior go even higher in hierarchy?

. Bosses didn’t ask you to do all these, and even if they did, if you do what is expected of you at your work place, you will not need to be licking all those boots to impress anyone. Do your job and stop being weird out there.

. Speaking to your boss will make you a lesser victim to office conspiracy, doom, and eventual dismissal. The amount of struggle to the top, the eat or be eaten. The back stabbing going on in offices these days, any one can be bought , and many are victimized. If you are Always asking people to help you present your issues to the Boss , you are setting yourself up for victimization.

So Dear Employees, Respect is enough. Fearing your boss is uncalled for, and annoying. The worst part is that you encourage others join you in it. It is not an attractive quality, boot licking sucks, and it is a show of incompetence.

Boot licking sucks
Boot licking sucks

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What runs through the minds of women who are Obnoxious bread winners.

Breadwinner

Naturally, every Women no matter the strata of the society they belong to or come from, have it at the back of their mind that they are princesses, something most Dads have brought up their kids no matter what the reality portrayed. Girls who have had their self confidence taken away from them as kids, through bullying, body shaming, abuse or even just by their very own mindset, still have it at the back of your head that you are suppose to be a princess, and thereby feel weird when it is not as it is suppose to.

Pas a girl, You not wanting to be, or not feeling like a princess automatically ¬†in the men’s world, makes you feel like you are weird, and anti social. The notion that a man will always come to save you as a lady, has eaten deep into the mindset of the 90’s kids, that they grew up, always looking for the Prince Charming to come save them. Some organization felt guilty when they realised that kids who have looked up to them while growing up, have actually believed and imbibed the notion of a Prince Charming coming to save. And such Establishments include Disney. But lately, Disney and every other establishment have actually begun the correction of mindset of girls. They now produce cartoons with storylines that intentionally had nothing to do with a princess being rescued. They now have princess rescuing themselves, and even rescuing the men who would have been the ones to save them.

Breadwinner
Breadwinner

Now with this mindset, a young lady who was brough up, especially in the African setting where a man is expected to come into the life of a growing girl, and rescue her from poverty,taking her to wealth, they come rescue her from the village life style and take her to the city, come Marry you and automatically change your life and that of your family members. The Igbo men spend so much time making Money before getting married because the Igbo culture tells every girl that the moment she gets married, she is no longer suppose to known any thing called poverty, talk more of experiencing it. ¬†Women are told to sit and eat when they get married, while ¬†the husband takes care of her. Even those who haven’t ever seen any of he Disney movies before in the village but share this same idea to their mind,¬†but have the same mind set with the Channel story telling idea, The African woman expects her husband to be a provider to her and their offsprings untill the day he dies.

With all these orientation, a typical women who gets Married to a man, expects to the sit and experience all that they have been told by their parents. But when this man who has the trust of the woman he calls a wife, and the woman who sees him as a super hero, decides to fall short along the way, selling his ultimate responsibility as their bread winner to his wife. A woman who is suppose to be his pampered princess, now becomes a bread winner for him, this brings out the other side of a woman no one ever know she had.

Breadwinner
Breadwinner

She assumes the position of a husband to her husband, a father to the kids, a dictator, a provider, a breadwinner, a mother, a cook, a care giver, and still a sexual partner, All at the same time.

The softness of this women takes a back seat, while her game face comes forth. She gets frustrated and ashamed to be taking her husband’s job, ¬†A man she looked up to is suddenly a weakly to her, she starts to look at men who are high and richer than she is, because no matter where and what a woman is, the need for a partner is significantly felt. When her husband is not the man she had always wanted him to be, she looks for a husband in the men who she is not suppose to.

The wife is angry at him for putting her in that position, and disappointed in him  as he breaks his promise to provide for her and her kids for ever, and angry at him for reducing the mental image she had of him, into this good for nothing, who seats at home all know waiting for her to come home and feed her and the kids.

A woman might help out from time to time in the family with bills, but making her the bread winner, will bring out the traits you should have never seen. This is the time men complain of their wives being so bossy, so disrespectful, and ¬†treating them like a kid. Why won’t she treat you like a kid when you are practically being a kid to her. During this time, if you don’t go get yourself a job and regain you dignity, your position will drop from the childlike position, to that of a house help. You clean the kids and the house, and even the wife.

The dignity of a man, intensely lies on his ability to provide for this family, especially a wife. So Dear men, don’t let your wife become a bread winner for long. Rush out to get a job, and take back your position as a head. You can’t eat your cake and have it. This is predicted to get even worse in the future. Go out and do something for yourself. These women these days do 10 times what a man should do. Never¬†forget this .

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Breadwinner
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Lagos, know your Bills: Trash Evacuation Bils.

Trash bills
Trash bills
Trash bills

Dear People of Lagos, we know how every one is a boss in Lagos, until you actually known them, and the secret slips out? When we want everything to be done for us because of our boss status? Well this is for you to know some of the bills before you are made to pay even 10 times the actual bill due to the middle man.  Well, that is not the topic of the day, it is a story for another day. Today is the trash evacuation bill.

 

This ‘know your bills Friday’ , we will be looking at the trash Evacuation bills. It has come to my notice that many have been swindled by their gatemen, family friends, and relatives while they were handing out the payment to the ¬†bills to the a middle man. Bills for trash evacuation differs from one neighbourhood to the other. The market women and men pay their’s in fractions which is paid collectively according to their agreement.

People living in the slump, have no zeal to pay trash evacuation bills, since they rather live with it. So they are known to avoid and dodge these bills.

Early last year 2017,  the Governor, Akinwunmi Ambode made a law where the rich will be robbed to pay the  bills of the poor. This means that , if you are living In a respectable neighbourhood, you will be charged higher than those who are not. And if you are living in Ikoyi and Banana Isalnd, Ikeja G.R.A, yours is higher than those in Lekki, V.I, Ikeja Esatates,  so your Lawma bill is as follows.

Trash bills
Trash bills

.A unit pays N4000 for a month.

.A building is a unit.

An apartment In a building is not a unit.

A three ,four, five, stores building is a unit.

A storeybuilding that houses 8 flats, will all contribute their money  to pay N4000 for the  month.

This emphasis is not a joke, it was born as a result  of my building  falling a victim to our former security guy, who took the 12k for three months receipt, meant for the whole buildiNG , which is a unit, to individual apartments, collecting 12 thousand each from six apartment making it 72k instead of 12k. While he pays 12k tot he trash evacuation company, he pockets 60k for himself. All because we just were too reluctant to investigate something so simple, or even pay the bills by ourselves. He did this for. Year plus, and constantly gave the impression that he was more than a gateman to us. He smiled while stabbing us in the back, this amongst many more bill crimes he committed.  So please, take note guys  and know just what is expected of you to pay as your bill.

Middlemen are the problem….

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The exact amount of power used by post paid meter users is unknown to PHCN.

Meters

The Nigerian meter issue has been an insignificant topic for a very long time, when Nigerians got use to the only meter they have ever known. Not until the PHCN, then NEPA, decided to convert the post paid meters to the prepaid in the early 2000, giving Nigerians a taste of transparency in their power usage. Even ¬†though the power holding company then, did it to curb the amount of illegal happenings between power company and power consumers, they didn’t know that they were doing the general public a favour by exposing them to a better way of handling and monitoring the true reading of their electric bills.

Meters
Meters
PhCN problems
PhCN problems
Meters
Meters

Initially, Nigerians repelled the idea of change as usual even though what they had, was nothing to write home about. But ¬†with series of explanations and tricks to convince them and an eventually threat, Nigerians gave in to the pre paid meter idea, and after installation was done, ¬†usage¬†¬†commenced, it immediately became clear that the Power holding was right after all. The new meter makes you conscious of your power usage, and you are in charge of your own bill, with prove and readings for the very first time,” ¬†it was indeed better than the previous one.” Nigerians screamed in joy, even though not everyone loved it as much.

But since everything in life comes with its good and bad sides, ¬†it didn’t ¬†take long for the bad side of this meter to show up. 15 years later, ¬†the same power holding company (even though their name changed), ¬†noticed that their consumers have found a way of using power without it reading on their meter (direct connection).

Now doing the unthinkable, the power authority is now going back to their vomit, pushing to have their consumers change back to the primitive post paid meter, even going as far as trying to impose it on learned citizens of Nigeria, who now more than anything, know their rights. They tried it with the prominent residents of Federal Low Cost housing estate of Jos Plateau state, who were accused of all doing the illegal connection, but the residents had too many prominent men and women, even the current Governor was and still is a resident of the Estate, even as he occupies the Government house. Last year, The Estate sued PHCN, and surprisingly won. They sure knew their right, as ¬†The court stopped them from changing the meters back to post paid. This gave other residents in the state and its surrounding the go ahead to vehemently reject the new meter. The PHCN Couldn’t believe how much smarter, the world had gotten from the early 2000s.

Meters
Meters

 

¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†THE PROBLEM WITH POST PAID METERS….

I rev toy noticed that the PHCN on its own, like 15 years ago, has no way of keeping record of the exact amount of energy individual consumers use.¬†Isn’t this the most unbelievable thing to hear in 2018.? ¬†

So if the people had agreed to the meter change again, it would have been the exact ¬†same experience like they had in the years before the 2000? They haven’t had anything changed or improved. They just wanted to keep shifting from on meter to the other when they wanted it, thinking people don’t know their left from their right. They have been surprised at the awakening call from Nigerians themselves.

Well, this company keeps taking the notion of a non functional, non growing, non improving, non impressing, non accountable ¬†to a new level. Have you tried calling PHCN costumer care line? Let me save you the stress Dear Nigerians, you won’t reach anyone. The recorded lady keeps reading out options to you, until you change your mind and end the call.

I called them to complain heavily when they started bringing gauge sums of bills to us for our pumping machine, which happen to be running on a post paid meter. The bill was unbelievably high, that I decided to investigate it. They brought us 12 thousand Naira a month for pumping water for the six flats in the building, and that was considered ok, untill four tenants moved out, leaving only two families, and we still got the same 12 thousand Naira as bills. We paid it 24 thousand Naira for 2 months, and started to Complain to them, and was dumbfounded, when we came home one afternoon, five weeks after making the 24 thousand Naira which was meant to be for two months, only to see that they have left another bill with the security guy. We checked it, and were dumbfounded to see the ¬†sum of 81 thousand Naira as the bill for 5 weeks. Even if we were a cash wash company, or a water producing company, we won’t use 81 thousand Naira worth of water for five weeks.

I went to investigate this preposterousness and was told that they actually take the total readings from a general neighbourhood transformer, and share the bills the way they choose to the building that are connected to that particular  Transformer without know who used what. Which means that if you were conservative with power usage  for the whole month, you will still be asked to pay a huge sum of money as your bill. Mind you, the meter was just for pumping water for the building, as every apartment had its own pre paid meter for personal use. At this point, my shock knew no bound.

First of all, how did they even come to that as the best solution for the individuals of different households? Didn’t it occur to you that it is incredibly wrong to spread bills indiscriminately to people who don’t live togther. What if a manufacturing company is situated on that ¬†neighbourhood (like in my case), and the bills from the transformer is then spread across the building connect to the it, does that mean that the manufacturing company will have its neighboring buildings pay its bills? This is by primitive and unbelievable. People are made to pay for the incompetence of the power holding company from their own pocket. They are even at liberty to add any amount the want, ¬†to the bills they are bringing to you. So just because you don’t want to have shortage while accounting at the end of the month, ¬†you make innocent people pay for your company to keep running smoothly. This is incredibly disturbing.

So for everyone using a post paid meter in Nigerian, I am sorry to let you know that you are seriously being exploited by the power holding company on a daily basis.

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What topic turns awkward sitting females to chatty friends the most?

Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting

Hi Ladies, We all know that very naturally repulsive behaviour we exhume when in the midst of other unfamiliar females right? The mere fact that we have left our comfort zone(home) to a public place, has made it even necessary for us to swallow up our smiles and friendliness, and turn into passive territorial warlords.

Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting

Without knowing each other, Ladies have their first impression of each other when they meet for the first time. And from my experience, it has always been the very same impression they give off to each other before they open their mouth to even exchange pleasantries.
“Hmmm,, why is she forming?”
“What is she feeling like”
“Who does she think she is?”
“Olosho oshi, karuwa, akuna kuna?”

All kinds of condescending speeches are said about them from a fellow lady who hasn’t met them before. But when ladies act like this towards each other,there us every tendency that they might end that day being friends or familiar buddies.(it happens mostly when they don’t have the same love interest). After they have spoken and corrected the wrong impression they have of each other, you hear an immediate change of speech,

” That girl is nice oh..”

” she is not as bad as we thought oh..”

“No,, don’t mind her face oh, she is actually a nice girl”

A little line of conversation between the both of them, will immediately change their mind set on each other.

But when the naturally uptight ones converge, they have the very similar topics that loosens them up and turns them into gist buddies. The topics that I am a master or raising in the midst of awkwardly converged girls always flow in this manner:

. Topics about relationships, should specifically centre around mean boyfriends, and their sexual rampage among friends: Since at one point in time, a lady is insecure about one body part or the other,so  they have a partner cheat on them with a close friend or relative. For this reason, the moment a person raises a topic that sounds familiar to their own  predicament, they are quick to forget their ego, and share their own experience with a partner of their, even though most times they claim its a friends experience and not theirs.

.A little gossip about a celebrity relationship will go a long way: Bad mouthing  a celebrity that they look up to, but cant be like, helps them feel better about themselves, and this always works.

.Stories about Sex softens and cracks them up:  when ladies are seated and quietly judging each other maliciously, the one topic that brings forth a teeth flash in amusement, is always sexual topics.

.The state that produces the best boyfriend/husband: And other topic that instantly brings out the defensive side, is the area of the best state with he best boyfriends/husbands. Females are quick to join in on this topic. They are always willing to say the tribe that has impressed or still impressing them. This one time, I said it was Delta side that had the most junk in the trunk, and my Igbo friends were having it. They will want to say how the Igbos are the best husbands. A testimony they claim even other tribes have testified.

Your job is not to prove them wrong as they enthusiastically argue, your top is always to bring in the hit topic, and let them express themselves. It helps them feel better about situation even you have no idea were that big a deal to them.

Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of awkward ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of awkward ladies chatting

So when you see a group of ladies quietly seated, don’t be quick to judge them, throw in any of these conversation topics, and have them express their frustration. After this, you watch them become a lively, happy group of playful humans.

They say sex and exercise eases stress, I think gossip can be added to this group.

Thank me later…

Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting
Topics to get a group of ladies chatting

 

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Behaviours, We all should leave behind this new year.

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Happy new year guys. You all are Welcome to 2018, I am glad we made it, and grateful to God that we did.

This new year, I am almost so convinced that a lot of Good things will  happen to us, so I will be needing a lot of feedbacks from you readers when yours happens, so we can get closer in our blogger reader relationship.

So I have sat myself down, I told myself some bitter truth about the behaviours, I definitely need to drop behind, and burn to ashes the year. I have dropped them right at the foot of 2017. If you did the same problems like I do, then let’s drop them together.

2018resolution
2018resolution

. EXPECTANCY: 

This year 2018, I will always remind myself that people are not super humans, they make mistakes just  like I do, and must  be pardoned for them,just  like God does to us. I will reduce my expectation from people to the  very minimum. I will let my self be surprised by the good people who value trust relationships, rather than be disappointed by every single person because I was expecting too much from them. This year, I expect nothing from anyone, but will appreciate the effort of everyone who tried to live up to their words. I will expect nothing..

.ANGER:   

All my life, I have been known to be a sensitive person right from birth. Easily offended, easily reactive, easily spotting the bad side of people, and not easily letting go. It has been a rather energy demanding traits, which has never been useful in anyway. Bringing more harm than good, breaking relationships, and ending friendships. For that reason, I HAVE STOPPED IT. No more anger in 2018.

.TALKING LESS: 

This year 2018, the act of talking too much, will be minimized, and converted to writing a lot. Everything needed for me to say, will be on the blog. My mind and mouth are so connected that they relay quick information to each other, and that is dangerous. Most times when I am angry, I express my feelings the exact way that I feel, which is not suppose,  This  has never been a cute situation. I offend myself, and the other person involved, ending things that I value. THAT MUST STOP ..

.OVER THINKING:

The act of Trying to have a perfect picture in your head, with a perfect plan, and a perfect result, has bandaged my mind for a long time. Always thinking things through, is not always good for you . I will take risks this year, no doubt about that, without minding the outcome (Good risks though). I will  just go with the flow. (The good kind of flow), and expand my happy place with others in it.

.FORGIVE:

To all those who have wronged me, I forgive you. To all those who will wrong me in future, I will free myself and everyone else from the trend of mental torture, and prison. If I have ever wronged you too, I beg that you forgive me, and let’s move on. I will forgive and hope you do the same this year, to free you mind, mental health and conscience this year.

. I WILL GIVE LOVE A CHANCE: 

This year, I am willing to let myself love and be loved. I will free every person of the sin of the previous ones. I will not judge any human being with the sins of the predecessors,  Everyone will stand for his/herself, and not get compared to any other person. I will be happier this, make more money and spend my money on myself and my family  this year, be kind to others and the needy this year, and Love God more this year.

And I will definitely be kind to all those who have been kind to me this year, because I love that part the most. I always feel the need to retaliate kindness immediately it is done to me. And hope to hear your feedbacks this year as well.

.write more books this year, start up businesses this year, and always have time for you all this year.

I only just realised yesterday, That I needed to approve messages before the get shown on the blog comment. I have had thousands of messages that never got approved. I am so sorry for that, and from now on, I will approve appropriate messages on the blog every single day.

HAPPY 2018!!!!!!!!! 

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The reason why more people get into trouble before crossing into the new year.

Happy New year

The last hours of a year has been known to be very sensitive for many reasons. Humans have given themselves  a deadline, expecting themselves to achieve and obtain things before crossing over to the new year. The people who had sworn to be a certain thing, in a certain place and with a certain someone before the year runs out,  have it at the back of their mind that they still have the chance to carry out their goals before the strike of midnight.

Happy New year
Happy New year

 

 

 

Some spiritual people will always tell you that you have to be in the cross over service to usher in the new year. First of all, we are expected to pray every single day for as many times as possible, and not only cross over. Just because the year is coming to an end doesn’t mean that we now have to pray only then.

Happy New year
Happy New year

 

 

 

 

Cross over is not the only time God listens to prayers guys, he actually  listens to prayers all the time, all year round.  So many people  have held onto the crossover nights with the reason that their pastor of religious leader had told them. So, while others are home safe trying to stay out of trouble before the new year, others fight tooth and nail to make it to a far away church, in any means necessary, there by getting into all kinds of troubles.  This is a very common case in Nigeria, where People are involved in road accidents, police cases, street  fights, pick pockets, and all.

Happy New year
Happy New year

 

 

 

 

Nigerians believe that if you don’t ¬†come together ¬†with your church ¬†members on the 31st night to cast, bind, and kill your enemies with prayers, then your new year won’t be as blessed as the Lord God had intended it to. This is the notion that puts people right in the spot of danger. ¬†Over the years, people who attended cross over nights were targeted by the deadly Boko haram, or gun men, or just thieves looking to rob unsuspecting people, leading to the loss of lives.

Stepping away from the Religious ones, into the zone of SLAY mamas and papas. Some other people belief that they have to spend it in the club, or parties. With the notion that they try to drink as much alcohol as possible for some reason, which is so hard for me to understand. Why do you see the need to drink too much before the new year? Do they charge higher for the drink ?or does it taste better than it would in the new year? or does it get expired the moment the new year starts? Why do you just have to drink irresponsibly before the new year? Why? Someone needs to explain to me.

Happy New year
Happy New year

 

 

 

 

Parties and clubs or even gatherings at stadium and viewing center for sometime now, had been a very huge target for depressed and gun violent, religious fanatics in 2017.  Even before 2017, a happy crowd always draws the attention of a depressed fellow who feels the need to put people in the same bad mood that they are in.

So far, staying at home with the people you love, is the only option, But that too, is not a guarantee. People have come in contact with unimaginable horrors while innocently staying home, So this doesn’t mean home is the best place. But for us humans, home is the best place for us especially me, Blogging you into the new year, because There is no Holiday for me.

While the NEWYORKERS ¬†gather to count down, the LAGOSIANS gather to pray,parry and slay. This right here, means different strokes for different folks. So no one is in any position to tell others how to spend their cross over night, it is solemnly their choice. But where ever you are, don’t forget to be careful, make right decisions, and finally, pray to ¬†God.

Happy New year guys…..ūüéČūüéáūüéäūüéÜūüéāūüéą

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Obyorijitruth: The two types of 21st century Engagements.

Two Types of engagements

My dear awesome readers from Nigeria and other Countries, we all know that very famous thing that has taken over our life and privacy in this era as humans. It has shown ¬†its pro’s and Con’s in our lives today, but the moment we are brave enough to start, we sell our soul, and automatically can’t stop.

Two Types of engagements
Two Types of engagements

My Dad who is not an internet addict, can go on without it forever. But for me, I dare not stay without the internet for a week. Being a blogger, I love to spend time here writing for you all, or I will simply feel sick.

Now, if the Internet ¬†is this important to me as an individual, how about we then multiple it to the number of youths all over the world, who have enthusiastically declared that there are two lives. ‘The real life’ and ‘the social media life’.

Two Types of engagements
Two Types of engagements

The types of ENGAGEMENT, has also been termed the one planned by one, and the one planned by two or more people.

At one point in our existence, (in the 90s and early 20s), engagement was only done once, but with our internet reign, engagement now has two types:

The one where men, decide to plan it on their own and just pop the question to their girl, while their have a friend or sibling take photos and making videos for the people who were there to witness it, especially the internet guys.

Two Types of engagements
Two Types of engagements

On the other hand, some women these days, go with their guy to a jewelry store of their choice (if it is within their reach), and specifically point out the kind of ring that would suit their status. The guy buys it or they both do, he holds on to it, while they plan the right time and place to have the coincidence planned and exhibited.

These girls are easy to spot. Because even though they may cry, They have worked on their reactions for this time, for only God knows how long.

The sincere reaction gets subdued by the acting, but if you look closely, it is very clear to spot.

Two Types of engagements
Two Types of engagements

Now that we know that, it is clear to us, that there are two main type of engagement we have now. The type you used or want to use, is dependent on the partner you have chosen. As for me, I have no idea which I want. I use to think I want the planned one, but I am never sure of what I want.

#typesofengagements

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Video: Kevin Hart puts aside jokes to dish advice to his fans for the new year.

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kevin hart puts jokes aside to tell it like it is. #2018truth. For those people that would rather scream the problem than proffer solutions, for those people that would rather discourage your attempts, than help to build. For those who make you belief that you have to be like a certain person to please them, and for those who hang around you to serve as an informant to the opposition party, it is the to cut that thread. Lose the bond, set them free, so they can fly to another victim. In 2018, we only spend time looking at the good of every situation. #obyorijisblog #mentalhealthnigeria – #regrann

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Lagos State deploys over 900,000 electronically tracked waste bins.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos

According to Vanguard news,  Visionscape Group has taken delivery of a fresh batch of environment sanitation trucks to Lagos state, to be launch in the new year.

Driven from the port to one of their maintenance deport were, Compactors, trash trucks, trailer heads and other utility vehicles.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos
Electronic trash truck in Lagos

The Lagos State Government plans to deploy over 900,000 electronically tracked waste bins and 600 brand new compactors among other facilities to manage the over 10,000 metric tons of waste generated in the state daily.

I am honestly love the idea of the Lagos state government being clearly concerned with the waste situation of the state, that he actually makes a move towards improving it.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos
Electronic trash truck in Lagos

Even though our waste management is a big problem,  buying new things on the other hand, has never a problem in Nigeria. We as a Nation, are obsessed with importation and expensive purchases. But my in dividing concern has always been the maintenance culture of our leaders.

If this imported waste bin, and compactors get worn out and stop working in future, what then? Will the government have a maintenance system to service and repair these products when they develop faults? Or will they get another budget to just buy a brand new batch of the same thing, while the old ones sit by the road and rust in neglect, then become a bigger problem to the society than the dirt itself.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos
Electronic trash truck in Lagos

I really am concerned with ‘Maintenance‘ because that was my concern when we had these really new batch of eye candy BRTs, they were deliciously good looking, until they started to wear out, having broken parts, misused,¬† and no plans were made to fix them back up. They practically went from BRT to danfo buses in a matter of half a decade. Any body can wake up and¬† request for Government money to buy a new batch of public common goods. But when these goods need a little fixing and repainting, and rehabilitation, what happens then? They turn a deaf ear, and repeat the process of buying new ones all over again.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos
Electronic trash truck in Lagos

This has always been my problem and from the look of things, it hadn’t been fixed. Because everyday, I see things that make me wonder if this habit is only for COMMON GOODS.¬†

Is this the way we manage out homes? Things go bad and we turn a blind eye to it, and replace it with a brand new one immediately? This needs to stop. Every day, we read about Nigeria borrowing money from foreign countries to fix one thing or the other, and then the money gets stolen by politician elected to protect it ,  no one is caught or held responsible, because they have many people involved in sharing the money, no maintenance culture, no follow ups.

Electronic trash truck in Lagos
Electronic trash truck in Lagos

Dear Lagos State Government, we need these things repaired and painted when the time comes, instead of replacing them.

This should be a job for Peter Obi.

ūüď∑ Vanguardng

 

 

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Photo of the 2,000 bags of Ebonyi rice and 2,000 tubers of Ebonyi yam that were gifted to president Buhari during his visit to the state.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

I love the idea of gifting to anyone, especially when the “have not are being surprising generous to the haves” it is a nice gesture especially in the African culture.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB
Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

These pictures depict the  2,000 bags of Ebonyi rice and 2,000 tubers of Ebonyi yam that were presented to President Muhammadu Buhari by the Government and people of Ebonyi state during his official visit on Nov. 14. 2017

But when Ebonyi state, a state known for it deficiency in basic amenities, serious case of starvation, heightened poverty which is very evident, and even lack of  government caressing hands of revenue allocation, showing no signs of care.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB
Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

I can present to you endless list of people living in this same country, who would have survived on a tuber, or 15kg of rice which is not up to any bag sitting there.

What made them think that the President will feed on Ebonyi  rice and yam? What if had his rice imported into the Country? How about we find out what happened to this gifts.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB
Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

Was it sent to his in-laws and relatives in the North, or shared to people who already have too much money, that they can buy themselves 2000 bags of rices and a whole barn.

People (The have nots),  have formed the habit of taking every thing they have, that can keep them alive to gift to the the haves.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB
Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

All in the name of looking for attention. I schooled in the east, so I can single handedly tell you that I have seen Ebonyi people living in abject poverty¬† in a foreign Anambra land. They never feed fine because there isn’t enough money to make ends meet, they have more kids than the wealthy.

In as much as we love the President a lot, I am of the opinion that these gifts would go a long way in helping the people of Ebonyi even if for a week.

Rice and tubers of yam for PMB
Rice and tubers of yam for PMB

Let’s all Help the poor, leave the rich alone, they are getting richer.

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